Weddings are supposed to be perfect — as well as ambitious and highly personalized — and can be hard to pull off, given the expectations. Yet in dozens and dozens of weddings, between the early 1950s and the early 2000s, Ed felt like he batted 1000% since no rings were lost and no catastrophes occurred on his watch.
Ed often drew from three themes in the weddings he performed: a wedding is a love made public; it states an intention to be single-minded in caring for the other; and that marriage is built from older relationships and continues to be enriched by them. He wrote for one ceremony:
“The legacy of marital covenants reveals perils and rewards. This unique relationship abides as you grow in your love together. You will grow individually as the relationship grows. Christian marriage declares each of you as worthy of the unrestricted affection of the other, regardless of any faults and shortcomings. Worthy of another’s love, you are better able to love in return. Henceforth relationships to family, friends, and strangers are interpreted in light of your new purpose, to discover the future together.”
Ed performed weddings for Wake Forest couples, for friends, and for their family members. His first wedding services were for John and Ann Madison, May 1955; Gray and Hilda Boyette, July 1956; and John Frederick and Norma Turnage, September 1959. Weddings in the early 1960s included those for Glenn Jr and Jerri Blackburn, Jason and Melinda Mori, Don and Meyressa Schoonmaker; Van and Becky Brown; Sybil and Opie Wells, Joe and Eva Clontz; and David and Becky Jo Funkerburk, many of whom became life-long friends.
Over his career, Ed performed weddings of every scale and setting — large and small, formal and informal, indoor and outdoor, held in churches and in courthouses, sometimes sharing the podium with another minister or rabbi. Ed officiated at the Yale University Chapel in the late 1960s and, 40 years later, at a wedding held on the top of courthouse steps in Sylva, NC.
Children attendants often created unexpected moments. At the Sylva wedding, for example, the flower girl stopped mid-way up the steps and would not go further; her father had to carry her the rest of the way. At another wedding, the child serving as ring bearer stopped to sit down with his mother and would not budget. The resourceful mother handed the ring to the boy’s sibling who successfully delivered it to the front of the church.
An occasional dog attendant also added novelty. At the beautiful garden wedding of Jan Williams and Larry Murdoch, the groom’s dog Lika accompanied the wedding party up the aisle, and when Ed spoke the groom’s name, the dog barked her support of the union.
Twists could come even at the end of the ceremony. At the wedding of a faculty member, Ed had to ask the groom if he’d remembered the pronouncement. He had… On another occasion, the bride kissed Ed after the pronouncement. Ed said, “why don’t you kiss him (the groom), too.”
Did Ed perform your wedding?
Chaplain Christman performed our wedding June 12, 1976 at Davis Chapel on the Wake campus. He was so great in counseling us before the wedding.. Steve attended Wake and graduated in 1974.. It was a wonderful ceremony and we remember Ed fondly .